Expect the unexpected and give more than you expected

Oh ho.....

What a day! It started with a discussion on Relationships with a close friend.

Me : What's happening to you? I fail to understand sometimes

He : Aah, in an awful mood; you know how it is .....but will bounce back soon.

Me : Ha, I understand , but bathake jaao na apni quite space mei, so that nobody disturbs,

He : Huh, bataya toh tha

Me : Ha, jab, I asked ....

And this endless talks..

And the conclusion rests on the expectations we have from the relationships we are into.

Siblings, friends, in-laws, husband - wife, neighbours, child - parent, employer-employee, teacher - student and many such!

Why do we expect? Is it because we love the other person, is it because it's natural since we are connected , is it because it's their duty to do react and respond, is it that it's your right to know things about the person whom you are connected or you love.

But what if the same thought process is running through the other persons mind too! What if they feel you have fallen short in responding!

So expect; but give more than you expect. You might sometimes feel that it's totally a one man job of maintaining a relation, but no it isn't. It's always a two way street. Aaj nahi toh kaal, the other person will reciprocate definitely. That too with double the intensity!

Try it out.

After all everything in life is give and take.

The more you give, the more you get, aaj nahi toh kaal , for sure.

But never ever hide in your relationship neither give a silent treatment.

Quoting what I read yesterday on a WhatsApp group...

Giving someone the silent treatment could possibly be a way for you to avoid confrontation but the message it gives out is psychologically damaging to the other person. It is saying that your feelings don’t matter. Only I matter to myself. Your intentions may be good but what matters is the outcome of your intentions.

Afterall having a relation in your life, is a blessing indeed.

Stay Blessed.

Nurture Contacts .. Build Relationships

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Received a message from Mr CEO of a MNC where I had conducted a session four years back, “Dear Riddhi, hope you are good with your health, got to know from a friend that you were not keeping well, just thought of saying a HI and please take care".

Aah....in the first instance, it might seem to be a common message, but if you read it carefully, you will realise, those are the relations earned over the years of my professional life.

Yes ...maintaining relations is very very important.  Maintaining relations doesn't mean that you take advantage and pitch in your work all the time.

It means to stay connected, not necessarily that you keep meeting, but yes connecting is a must. Avoid pitching in your work; that might take off the essence of a professional relationship.

A simple hi or hello or helping them to connect further with acquaintances they need at their end works well for a lady professional.

Some of the tips I have inculcated in my life to stay connected:

1..Exchange cards in the first meet and the same day, leave a personalized message , albeit remain in limits

2..Never talk about your achievements or your work unless asked

3..Once in a while, drop in  a message saying Hi

4..Connect over LinkedIn , if you are seeking professional association. Let the profile speak for you.

5..Once in 6 months, share a link of your work...

6..Be there, if the person needs any help in terms of connecting with somebody on the professional front

7.. Share your contacts, you'll achieve more

8..Never sell your work...

This is what I have done to stay connected on the professional front.

While on the personal front, I am always there for all my friends, come what may...I try to give my best in the relationship which I am blessed with.

And trust me, I get in return in abundance.

Love your Body - You LIVE in it!!

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We believe we are ALWAYS thankful!

Are we REALLY?

So....let me share an incident here.

I recently happened to undergo a surgery and have been advised rest for a month.

I was really worried, as between multiple work commitments, leaving home, my little one and going for surgery was giving me jitters.

As expected I started getting really negative about the surgery, to the extent that I started feeling what if I die?

What will happen to my little one?

With all that thoughts in my mind, I walked towards the operation theatre. I refused to be taken in on wheelchair as I felt I had to be strong to face the situation.

Nonetheless....I saw the entire surgery and was continuously blabbering about my work with the doctors while they were operating on me. The surgeon who operated has been a family friend and since I cannot wear lens during surgery, I insisted on being allowed to wear my specs so that I could properly see what's happening and Doctor Uncle had a good laugh at my obsession.

As I watched the surgeon and his assistance prep me for my surgery, it suddenly struck me! I felt I HAD to thank the body part which the doctors had just removed for supporting me for these many years. (I underwent Hysterectomy - removal of Uteras). That now offending part of my very body helped me enjoy the pride of being a Mother.

I touched my uterus and said "Thank You!"

This incident helped me realise that we fail to be thankful to our body and our minutest body parts.

Let's do that today my Dearies. Let us take 5 minutes from our daily routine, touch each and every part of our body with our palms and say "Thank You".

Feel it, feel the experience of touching it, appreciate the shape and look of that body part, appreciate the way it helps us in our daily life.

Don't forget - Vo part nahi hota Tou kya hota?🤔

Be Thankful to your body first ...Vo hai tou aap ho meri Jaan!!!

Smile is a beautiful accessory.

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I have a Facebook connect, who sends me a message every alternate day which says, “Riddhi mam, don't forget to Smile today."

How true is that!

We women usually start our day with thoughts of all our responsibilities and have a mental ‘to do’ list of the work to be completed throughout the day. Once we get off the bed, the daily routine automatically kick-starts; waking up the little one, making breakfast, fill up the tiffins, planning the day, laundry, cooking, social commitments and what not.

Where is the Smile?

Oh ho - no time to Smile.

Let us religiously start our day with a Smile. ☺☺☺☺

When you wake up in the morning, just look at yourself in the mirror, Smile and say – Good Morning Beautiful.

That will give an instant boost to your esteem and that's what we want right at the START of the day.

Smile Karenge? ☺

Esmile please!!! ☺☺ 

You look good when you smile, you are exercising your facial muscles, when you smile you don't frown, you don't think while you smile, who knows your smile might make somebody fall in love with you, your smile can make somebody's day....

There are so many advantages...

So lets Smile. ☺☺☺☺

Self Defence - Should be an instinct and not an afterthought

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Are we safe?

Your safety is your own responsibility.

I recently had to meet with the management of a school based in Wadala.

Unfortunately I did not have the car at hand and did not get an Ola for long.

I therefore had to hire an autorikshaw. As with most of us these days, I got so busy with calls on my mobile that I crossed Bandra from where I was supposed to hire a taxi without realising it. The rickshaw driver took advantage of this fact and decided to take the longest possible route to Wadala via Chembur. He then dropped me at an unknown place (to me), where I could see only trucks and nobody else. On asking why he was dropping me off there, I was told “aage auto nahi jaayega” (autos won’t go further).

For a moment I just couldn't understand what to do. I was already late for the meet and hence started walking. I finally got a taxi and started my GPS.

According to the GPS the place I was to go to was just close by; but the taxi driver sensing that I was unfamiliar with the place started driving really fast.

Panicking, I asked him to stop and he did near a building on the East of Wadala, completely isolated and a place where no girl would dare to go.

He then asked me to get down; and without thinking twice, I shouted and showed him a knife (I carry a small knife in my bag) and sprayed a little pepper spray. That worked and he started coughing badly. I told him to turn the taxi around or I would spray it in his eyes; simultaneous I started dialling the police emergency number.

The taxi driver had the audacity to say “kya aurat hai ...goonda hai ekdum” (what kind of a woman are you, an absolute thug).

To which I replied “tumhare jaise hote hai phir goonda Banna hi padta hai”! (With people like you around, we women have to become thugs!)

Thankfully he took a turn and dropped me on the highway, from where I finally got another taxi and reached my meeting albeit 50 mins late.

The reason for writing this post is to make women aware that your safety is in your own hands. Screaming and shouting for help should be secondary, fighting off the attacker should be your first instinct. Your safety is in your hands; nobody else is responsible for that.

Have presence of mind and be aware.

Go on a date - with yourself

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Let's spend some Time on oneself today!!! 

When you read this, the first thought that comes to your mind is, "Arey , time kaha hai?" 

Ha..you are right! 

You really don't have time to spend for yourself. You tend to spend time for all the things on earth - right from cooking, gossiping, getting in arguments with sabzi wala, mother-in-law, for your child and your husband and sleeping too. But no time for your own self. 

My dear Women, it is very very important to spend time on and for your own self as that's self care and self care is therapeutic. Time can be spent with your own self by doing meditation, going for walks (leaving your mobiles at home), going for massages, going for a cup of coffee with your girls gang, sitting idly with a cup of tea/coffee, listening to music, dancing, giving a movement to your feelings, and so on. 

Now why is this important? Few points to make you understand why spending time with own self is important: 
1.. It works tremendously on maintaining positive mental health 
2..It improves your emotional well being too 
3..It works on your immunity too 
4..It's kind of feel good factor for you 
5..Helps structure your thought process. 

With so many benefits, kya kare.....hum implement kare kya? 

So what are you waiting for... Let's do it today itself. 

Remember, spending time with one self is not being self centred, it means to take care of your own self to be well equipped to take care of the family.

You are your BFF

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I often have a habit of spending atleast 30 mins in the morning with my own self .

That helps me think about the relationship I share with my own self.

Am I my own critic? Do I inspire my own self? Do I love myself?

Or

Do I hate myself? Do I expect too much from ME? What?

Yes, I do Self-Talk!!

That helps me work upon my issues and resolve it.

Self-talk helps developing positive self.  Self-talk can have a great impact on your confidence. The effect can be good or bad, depending on whether your self-talk is positive or negative. There are a few ways you can develop better self-talk, starting with just listening to what you routinely say to yourself.

I keep myself motivated as I do Self-Talk.

Would you like to give a try?

Accept yourself - You are perfect just the way you are

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Accept Your Body

Often we women, keep on cribing about our body part/ parts which we don't like. It might be our nose, or stomach or hips, or thighs  and many a times we are ashamed of some of our body parts like underarms, or inner thigh areas or even our calf legs or toe fingers.

One can accept your body then only when you are convinced of what you have is the best.

Work on it but don't shy, accept it , love it.

Unless and until you love it and accept it, you will feel uncomfortable with what you wear and that will lead to low confidence on your appearance and also will reflect on your behavior.

So let us make a point to touch  the body parts ( which we don't like) and say - I love you....

That touch should be given by using our palms - palms have the best healing powers .

And see the miracle that happens.

Accept your body and love it to the core.

Let's believe in the Kurkure Slogan - Teda hai , par mera hai.

Communication and not just conversation

#RiddhisMusings :Happy Women's Year

Yes.   It's our life and it's throughout the year that we do things for own self.

The most important trait and habit to imbibe in our daily lives is the way we communicate.

Half of our arguments and tendency of getting hurt, gets solved if we are conscious about the way we communicate.

The tip for the day is.

Communicate with an "I" instead of just a "YOU".

We usually tend to use "YOU" in our conversations and that's where the problem arises.

YOU - denotes blame and nobody likes to get blamed.

The best way of communicating for a woman is "I".

I  - “I felt this”... “I feel.....,”

"I " messages are putting your feelings first and then communicating, which certainly passes on the message to the other person that you haven't liked something or someone’s behaviour and still it’s not a blame game

Let's consciously make an effort to use "I" in our communication

To Err is Human

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The word Expectation has evolved with us women...

First we had expectations from our Ruler – the King

Eventually we evolved to having expectations from the head of the family, as he was the bread winner and our demands were satisfied.

Then we moved on to expecting our better halves to satisfy our needs; both emotional and financial.

From that age to now, we women have evolved and so have our expectations.

These days, we are more independent in terms finance and emotions and are more self motivated and Self Empowered. However in this evolution, our expectations from ourselves have also increased - knowingly or unknowingly.

We have made bench marks for ourselves keeping in mind our capacity and weaknesses. And in this whole journey, we tend to get frustrated and depressed as we couldn't perform.

But kaise bhool Gaye....WE ARE A HUMAN BEING, and ‘To Err is Human.’

Instead of getting depressed; how about giving yourself a SMILE and saying - Aare Eis Baar Nahi, Tou Aagli Baar Hi Sahi...(so what if it didn’t work out this time; next time it will!)

Don't we adjust to other people's behavior and actions, even when we had expected from them?

Then why do the rules change when it comes to US - our Ownself.

Socho Socho!!

Try this and see the results.

Intolerantly tolerant

#RiddhiRambles_Tolerant or not!!

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So a couple of days back, I was at this lush green township of Reliance at Jamnagar. 

At such a peaceful place, I heard one lady talking to another, "I don't feel good these days". Lady 2 - Why so? 
Lady 1 - So much to handle, child , house, husband, upper se no groceries, so need to go and buy that, cycle mei air bharvana hai, saris press mei deni hai, Bai is on leave, arey muje jeena hi nahi hai ." 

Listening to this conversation, the thought that came to my mind is - have we women become so intolerant? Isn't family our priority? Looking after the child, house, husband, own clothes, grocery purchase, is all this a burden? And uske liye, we are ok to end our life? 

Women have always been known for their tolerance levels, multitasking ability, love, affection, patience, and empathy.....tou ye SAB kaha Gaya? Let us today ponder over this and try to figure out ourselves - where do we stand, when it comes to Tolerance...