Thursday 2 August 2018

Relationships - Nurture them



Recently, I had been chatting with my bestie...

And he casually said : loved your smile
Me : Where did you see that?
He : In the DP

And since I was joking around, I abruptly wrote a shayari which kind of represented with the situation.

"Ek zamana tha
Ek zamana tha
jab dosto ek dusre Ko milke  smile dete the
Aab ye zamana hai
Aab ye zamana hai
Ki DP dekh ke hi smile Kar lete hai".

This holds so true these days....

How often do we meet people or our friends?

We say, we are connected but have you ever thought, how?

We do stay connected but majority of the times we remember, when we need.

The need can be emotional, physical, materialistic or seeking a connect!

So, what comes to my mind is this; is this friendship? Is this a relation or just a connect?

A relation is just like a plant, you need to nurture it with love, patience, understanding and empathy. If it's not nurtured, it stays as mere connect...

And connect is always there as a means of barter, services or self benefit.

Some quick tips to nurture relations, they can be your friend, parents, spouse, child, in-laws, sisters and sister in law's ....
1..Call them instead of dropping a message.
2..Wear a smile while you talk.
3..Talk DilSe and not just for the hack of talking.
4..Plan a surprise visit to them.
5..Take care of their special occasions and moments such as birthdays, health , their personal achievements, marriage  anniversary  and sometimes cater to their  moods too, as you are a friend and remember- a friend is never judgemental.

If you find that you are not able to cope up with that, take your time , the other person understands too and remember, it's a two way traffic ....so the other person is trying too.

So let's give a hi-fi and start it anew...

Every relationship has a strong emotional bond, nurture it ...you will love to see it blossom and so will be the other person.

21 comments:

  1. I fully agree... i Manage to keep the relationship alive by doing all that u just mentioned. And it works..!! For sure..!

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  2. Hi Riddhi,

    Very well said. In today’s world people are loosing the skill of maintaining relations.

    Hetal

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    1. So the key is - Nurture it and mantra if - Lets Talk

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  3. Excellent article to nurish relationship in this digital era..

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  4. Hello Ma'am,
    How well you have illustrated the relationship in today's era , were technology is preceded the relationship between a person.
    I shall keep in mind the suggestion mentioned by you for a colourful relationship .

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  5. Rightly said and profoundly expressed. Relationships are like saplings that need to be nurtured with tender care every now and then else they may wither away. Thanks for reminding us to value the things that matter in life.

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  6. Very True Riddhi,
    Where before, meeting and bonding was second nature, in this age of technology we need to take that extra step to meet in person and practise this to make it second nature again.

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  7. U speak ur heart so well Riddhi. I definitely agree with ur friend, u really have a beautiful smile.

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  8. Hi Riddhi
    Love ur smile.
    Smile definately is the best medicine that cures sick relations. Ur suggestions r really good n if these becomes habit I think artificial relations becomes natural n stronger

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  9. It is nicely explained with useful tips.

    While there are many aspects but the major one I think is if our relationship is based on a personal need, it is not going to last very long. Once the need is fulfilled, on a physical level or emotional level, the mind looks for something else, somewhere else. However if the relationship comes from the level of sharing, then it can last longer.

    Besides ego, expectations, insensitivity, too much sensitivity are most common factors which causes bitterness.

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    1. So true - small things may lead to huge gaps in the relationship

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  10. Further, I wish to give some tips on improving Relationships: –
    a) Every person desires to be treated lovingly and simple kindness can inspire kindness in return.
    b) Intimacy cannot thrive without contact. Making time for those important to you, demonstrates the depth of your feeling. Try to take few moments to reach out and make efforts to establish contacts.
    c) Positive thoughts and deeds inspire love, honesty and respect. Negativity can only cause stress in relationships.
    d) Share not only laughter, but the tears as well. In doing so you will become richer in spirit.
    e) Conflict is a natural part of relationships. Focus on creating balanced compromise rather than winning or losing argument.
    f) Feeling of irritation, anger and frustration flourish when you remain silent. Give voice to your emotions as they arise, using neutral, non-accusatory statements. Make your feelings clear.
    g) Being hurt by someone you care for is one of the life’s greatest sorrows, but forgiveness is one of the great joys. Practice forgiveness to ease the strain on relationships that have been put to test – it will bring peace to your soul.

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    1. Thank you for adding some more tips , Ravindraji

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