Expect the unexpected and give more than you expected

Oh ho.....

What a day! It started with a discussion on Relationships with a close friend.

Me : What's happening to you? I fail to understand sometimes

He : Aah, in an awful mood; you know how it is .....but will bounce back soon.

Me : Ha, I understand , but bathake jaao na apni quite space mei, so that nobody disturbs,

He : Huh, bataya toh tha

Me : Ha, jab, I asked ....

And this endless talks..

And the conclusion rests on the expectations we have from the relationships we are into.

Siblings, friends, in-laws, husband - wife, neighbours, child - parent, employer-employee, teacher - student and many such!

Why do we expect? Is it because we love the other person, is it because it's natural since we are connected , is it because it's their duty to do react and respond, is it that it's your right to know things about the person whom you are connected or you love.

But what if the same thought process is running through the other persons mind too! What if they feel you have fallen short in responding!

So expect; but give more than you expect. You might sometimes feel that it's totally a one man job of maintaining a relation, but no it isn't. It's always a two way street. Aaj nahi toh kaal, the other person will reciprocate definitely. That too with double the intensity!

Try it out.

After all everything in life is give and take.

The more you give, the more you get, aaj nahi toh kaal , for sure.

But never ever hide in your relationship neither give a silent treatment.

Quoting what I read yesterday on a WhatsApp group...

Giving someone the silent treatment could possibly be a way for you to avoid confrontation but the message it gives out is psychologically damaging to the other person. It is saying that your feelings don’t matter. Only I matter to myself. Your intentions may be good but what matters is the outcome of your intentions.

Afterall having a relation in your life, is a blessing indeed.

Stay Blessed.

Self Defence - Should be an instinct and not an afterthought

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Are we safe?

Your safety is your own responsibility.

I recently had to meet with the management of a school based in Wadala.

Unfortunately I did not have the car at hand and did not get an Ola for long.

I therefore had to hire an autorikshaw. As with most of us these days, I got so busy with calls on my mobile that I crossed Bandra from where I was supposed to hire a taxi without realising it. The rickshaw driver took advantage of this fact and decided to take the longest possible route to Wadala via Chembur. He then dropped me at an unknown place (to me), where I could see only trucks and nobody else. On asking why he was dropping me off there, I was told “aage auto nahi jaayega” (autos won’t go further).

For a moment I just couldn't understand what to do. I was already late for the meet and hence started walking. I finally got a taxi and started my GPS.

According to the GPS the place I was to go to was just close by; but the taxi driver sensing that I was unfamiliar with the place started driving really fast.

Panicking, I asked him to stop and he did near a building on the East of Wadala, completely isolated and a place where no girl would dare to go.

He then asked me to get down; and without thinking twice, I shouted and showed him a knife (I carry a small knife in my bag) and sprayed a little pepper spray. That worked and he started coughing badly. I told him to turn the taxi around or I would spray it in his eyes; simultaneous I started dialling the police emergency number.

The taxi driver had the audacity to say “kya aurat hai ...goonda hai ekdum” (what kind of a woman are you, an absolute thug).

To which I replied “tumhare jaise hote hai phir goonda Banna hi padta hai”! (With people like you around, we women have to become thugs!)

Thankfully he took a turn and dropped me on the highway, from where I finally got another taxi and reached my meeting albeit 50 mins late.

The reason for writing this post is to make women aware that your safety is in your own hands. Screaming and shouting for help should be secondary, fighting off the attacker should be your first instinct. Your safety is in your hands; nobody else is responsible for that.

Have presence of mind and be aware.

To Err is Human

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The word Expectation has evolved with us women...

First we had expectations from our Ruler – the King

Eventually we evolved to having expectations from the head of the family, as he was the bread winner and our demands were satisfied.

Then we moved on to expecting our better halves to satisfy our needs; both emotional and financial.

From that age to now, we women have evolved and so have our expectations.

These days, we are more independent in terms finance and emotions and are more self motivated and Self Empowered. However in this evolution, our expectations from ourselves have also increased - knowingly or unknowingly.

We have made bench marks for ourselves keeping in mind our capacity and weaknesses. And in this whole journey, we tend to get frustrated and depressed as we couldn't perform.

But kaise bhool Gaye....WE ARE A HUMAN BEING, and ‘To Err is Human.’

Instead of getting depressed; how about giving yourself a SMILE and saying - Aare Eis Baar Nahi, Tou Aagli Baar Hi Sahi...(so what if it didn’t work out this time; next time it will!)

Don't we adjust to other people's behavior and actions, even when we had expected from them?

Then why do the rules change when it comes to US - our Ownself.

Socho Socho!!

Try this and see the results.

Intolerantly tolerant

#RiddhiRambles_Tolerant or not!!

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So a couple of days back, I was at this lush green township of Reliance at Jamnagar. 

At such a peaceful place, I heard one lady talking to another, "I don't feel good these days". Lady 2 - Why so? 
Lady 1 - So much to handle, child , house, husband, upper se no groceries, so need to go and buy that, cycle mei air bharvana hai, saris press mei deni hai, Bai is on leave, arey muje jeena hi nahi hai ." 

Listening to this conversation, the thought that came to my mind is - have we women become so intolerant? Isn't family our priority? Looking after the child, house, husband, own clothes, grocery purchase, is all this a burden? And uske liye, we are ok to end our life? 

Women have always been known for their tolerance levels, multitasking ability, love, affection, patience, and empathy.....tou ye SAB kaha Gaya? Let us today ponder over this and try to figure out ourselves - where do we stand, when it comes to Tolerance...