Oh ho.....
What a day! It started with a discussion on
Relationships with a close friend.
Me : What's happening to you? I fail to
understand sometimes
He : Aah, in an awful mood; you know how it
is .....but will bounce back soon.
Me : Ha, I understand , but bathake jaao na
apni quite space mei, so that nobody disturbs,
He : Huh, bataya toh tha
Me : Ha, jab, I asked ....
And this endless talks..
And the conclusion rests on the expectations
we have from the relationships we are into.
Siblings, friends, in-laws, husband - wife,
neighbours, child - parent, employer-employee, teacher - student and many such!
Why do we expect? Is it because we love the
other person, is it because it's natural since we are connected , is it because
it's their duty to do react and respond, is it that it's your right to know
things about the person whom you are connected or you love.
But what if the same thought process is
running through the other persons mind too! What if they feel you have fallen
short in responding!
So expect; but give more than you expect.
You might sometimes feel that it's totally a one man job of maintaining a relation,
but no it isn't. It's always a two way street. Aaj nahi toh kaal, the other
person will reciprocate definitely. That too with double the intensity!
Try it out.
After all everything in life is give and
take.
The more you give, the more you get, aaj
nahi toh kaal , for sure.
But never ever hide in your relationship
neither give a silent treatment.
Quoting what I read yesterday on a WhatsApp
group...
Giving someone the silent treatment could
possibly be a way for you to avoid confrontation but the message it gives out
is psychologically damaging to the other person. It is saying that your
feelings don’t matter. Only I matter to myself. Your intentions may be good but
what matters is the outcome of your intentions.
Afterall having a relation in your life, is
a blessing indeed.
Stay Blessed.
Well said Riddi in our society we have always learned to take ,but we forget to give back.As you said its both way.I totally agree with u. Keep writing and inspiring
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Pinky....you.motivate me to write more
DeleteTrue...hope people will understand this n stop expecting n giving more
ReplyDeleteI am sure of it....have faith in your relations
DeleteAgreed Riddhi... But sometimes I also feel it's very important to understand and respect the person's state of mind. The best thing to do is support the person unconditionally with a huge smile.
ReplyDeleteI may be wrong... But that's my personal experience.
My dear unknown friend, lovely prespective, I agree but sometimes it goes beyond the understanding level, when the relation is too close to your heart, it goes to the level of expectation. Nothing wrong in expecting provided you are giving too in the relationship
DeleteAgree Ridhhi. You always write which touches the heart,
DeleteBut my experience is that I keep on giving and thn people take it for granted I dnt know what and how should I think on it
I agree completely with your view Riddhi. Let us start enjoying giving rather than expecting then seek the magic. Also, I believe that the world is round, so what you do comes back to you good or bad
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